How Dare You Say That To Yourself?!

Self-Talk in times of Change and Transition

Working in decompression I often hear the comments that patients make to themselves. It’s often comments that you wouldn’t dare say to someone else. So why do we say these things to ourselves? The high demands for performance that we put on ourselves as we ALL journey this path towards functional health: whether it’s a spinal goal, health goal or personal goal. The words we speak to ourselves make all the difference. Picture those high demand words as bricks; such as: I should be further along, I’ll never get better, oh I did ‘IT’ again, I’m only at… Then picture positive, kind, empathetic, compassionate words as water that is refreshing and renewing; I’ll get there, just breathe, I did my best, look how far I’ve come…

Question: Are you carrying more bricks or refreshing your inner being with the water our bodies need? I’ve done both ways and totally prefer the second. Personally for me in different times in my life where I’ve moved towards health I would get to a point in the journey where I found that there would often be two voices speaking to me. The first self-talk – it was this accusatory voice that pointed out any little thing I didn’t do ‘perfectly’. The second self-talk on certain days was this kind and compassionate voice. One day I came to a fork in the road and I had to make a decision within myself that I would focus my attention and energy on the self talk that was kind and empowering my life and I would allow the other voice to grow smaller. You’ve heard us say ‘What you focus on grows’… and as I did this, the more I focused and gave attention to the encouraging me, the other self grew smaller and smaller. Now I actually find myself saying ‘Wow this does work!’

Happy travels… I encourage you to try this for even 21 days and see what happens.

Susan has worked at Backfit for six and a half years and within decompression for six.  She has a background in personal development and training for the last 20 years. Susan believes in the value of holding true to yourself and leaning into doing what you love to do in life. She works with people in seasons of personal growth and change. Her work involves utilizing an interpersonal communication tool that allows people to see how they communicate within themselves and how they engage with life around them. Most importantly, Susan gets to journey in this life with her son and daughter Ben and Abbi.

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